Before you read this post, I suggest you read this article, on a letter sent to Marguerite Gordon of the Express' Woman Magazine.
I have to confess, I totally understand where that poor bloke Peter is coming from. Treating a woman with friendship and dignity and consideration never helps, I have been down that route many a time. Over the past few years I have found many women becoming much too self absorbent, selfish even, as they think of themselves first and their own gratification in everything before considering the feelings of others. It is more observed in the younger 'prefessional' women.
At first, I thought it was because I was getting older and less tolerant to nonsense that I had short shrift with people who were as discourteous as Peter describes. Now that I know other good men have faced the same discourtesies I do, I can only believe that good manners fall at the wayside.
It is hard to believe the amount of people I met (I'll be fair, both men and women) who believe that never returning emails (except mass mailings and chain mail, or jokes that have been around a zillion times before), or not returning your phone calls, or just saying hello once in a while is being your friend. News for you people! That really is being inconsiderate and lacking courtesy. No one can be too busy to make time for saying something meaningful, however short, regularly. Peter's gripe, sustainable as it is, is not with men however, but with women whom he considers friends, or perhaps something more.
I know there are men bashers and even regular women would disagree with me, but like there are good women in the bunch, so too are there good men. The problem lies with the majority of women seeking the totally wrong kind of men, getting burned and then hoping for a 'nice' man to settle down with.
Maybe it is time we men do not settle for second best.
I have to confess, I totally understand where that poor bloke Peter is coming from. Treating a woman with friendship and dignity and consideration never helps, I have been down that route many a time. Over the past few years I have found many women becoming much too self absorbent, selfish even, as they think of themselves first and their own gratification in everything before considering the feelings of others. It is more observed in the younger 'prefessional' women.
At first, I thought it was because I was getting older and less tolerant to nonsense that I had short shrift with people who were as discourteous as Peter describes. Now that I know other good men have faced the same discourtesies I do, I can only believe that good manners fall at the wayside.
It is hard to believe the amount of people I met (I'll be fair, both men and women) who believe that never returning emails (except mass mailings and chain mail, or jokes that have been around a zillion times before), or not returning your phone calls, or just saying hello once in a while is being your friend. News for you people! That really is being inconsiderate and lacking courtesy. No one can be too busy to make time for saying something meaningful, however short, regularly. Peter's gripe, sustainable as it is, is not with men however, but with women whom he considers friends, or perhaps something more.
I know there are men bashers and even regular women would disagree with me, but like there are good women in the bunch, so too are there good men. The problem lies with the majority of women seeking the totally wrong kind of men, getting burned and then hoping for a 'nice' man to settle down with.
Maybe it is time we men do not settle for second best.
